8 ways to know you are in a situationship

Lack of Labels

Neither of you refers to the relationship as "dating," "exclusive," or uses terms like "boyfriend" or "girlfriend."

Inconsistent Communication

You have periods of intense interaction followed by long stretches of minimal or no communication.

No Long-Term Plans

Conversations about the future are vague or nonexistent, and plans are often made last-minute.

Avoidance of Emotional Intimacy

One or both of you avoids deeper conversations about feelings, commitment, or personal challenges.

Physical Relationship Dominates

The connection feels more physical than emotional or intellectual, and intimacy is often the main focus.

Uncertainty About Roles

You’re unsure about how to introduce each other to friends or family, and the relationship feels ambiguous.

They Keep You at Arm’s Length

They might share just enough to keep you interested but hold back on vulnerability or meaningful details.

You Feel Confused About What You Are

If you're frequently wondering, "What are we?" and the answer is unclear or avoided, it’s a strong indicator.